This has always baffled me but what I've learned is that when you offer to help and share your knowledge and experience, they think that YOU want to sell them your own "ideas" or something like that.
Even when you tell them you DO NOT want to sell them anything but save them grief and help them learn from your ups and down - they just always think they can do better. Sometimes they are brainwashed into thinking that. They are told NOT to listen to the "naysayers" and to suspect them of trying to sell their own thing.
Even though we shouldn't give advice because "Fools won't heed it and the wise don't need it" I sometimes can't help myself with my family and children but I always preface it with "this is 'cause I love you and though I believe in you - if you fail - we have to help you pick up the pieces!"
This is one of the valuable things about this forum - we get so much advice, wisdom, knowledge from all your gurus for free. I can't keep up with all the wisdom here! Sue
Even when you tell them you DO NOT want to sell them anything but save them grief and help them learn from your ups and down - they just always think they can do better. Sometimes they are brainwashed into thinking that. They are told NOT to listen to the "naysayers" and to suspect them of trying to sell their own thing.
Even though we shouldn't give advice because "Fools won't heed it and the wise don't need it" I sometimes can't help myself with my family and children but I always preface it with "this is 'cause I love you and though I believe in you - if you fail - we have to help you pick up the pieces!"
This is one of the valuable things about this forum - we get so much advice, wisdom, knowledge from all your gurus for free. I can't keep up with all the wisdom here! Sue
I had a friend, a career changer, all excited going to work for Bankers Life. I told him that I knew quite a bit about Bankers and that he might want to consider other options and that I would be happy to have lunch with him and share some of what I knew about who to work for. He was so enthused he never called me and plunged on ahead. The next time I saw him three months later he had already left Bankers and went back to his old job. He told me it wasn't what he thought it would be and what they told him it was. Can you imagine that? If he would have listened to me...........................