Loly:
I'm a few years older than your husband and I see folks like you (us) all the time... who have been laid off and who are looking at severe financial dislocations, with few liquid assets to draw upon. Add a health issue without a safety net and you're talking about major problems.
Since you've had these insurance plans for 11 years I would doubt that they are so expensive such that dumping one of them will save all that much money.
I would urge you to keep the UL. If you can dial-down the term, that might be an option, but I doubt it will save enough to make a difference in your overall financial picture.
Think of your plans as assets that you can't easily replace at your age.
I urge you to concentrate not only on cutting back non-essentials but also on how to bring more income into the house. Even if it is a McJob, any income is going to help. Maybe it will take two McJobs and even a weekend McJob. Maybe you have to relocate. Maybe you need a career change (yeah, it is done even in mid 60s.) Maybe there is a government program you can enroll in for training? Maybe there is a business you would like to open (or buy.) Maybe a home equity loan (but only to fund training or education... and one that you will pay back!) If you are an empty-nester, maybe take in a boarder like a college student?
If you have to sell something, sell what you can replace... a house, a car, a boat. You can't easily replace your insurance plans.
The best thing you can do is find a good agent, one from a reputable company you have heard of, one close to your age who can identify with your stage in life (perhaps one who has been through it) and sit with him or her, put it all on the table and let your agent use his or her experience, training, and knowledge to help you create alternatives... both short term and longer term.
If you don't know of one, post your city and I'm sure you can get some referrals from some of us.
If the two of you are healthy, than you are better off than so many others. In that case it's only about money and there is almost always a way to create income. This is America, not Albania.
By today's mortality tables you are still quite young and there is opportunity out there. You just have to buckle down and find it. I've helped a lot of people where you are now (I'm age 60 so I've seen it all before... unlike my thirty-something colleagues here) and I'm sure there are advisors or agents or counselors in your area who can be of excellent service to you. Talk to a few and I think you will learn that it is not as bleak as it looks right now.
Don't feel sorry for yourself, do not kick yourself for bad decisions in the past, and don't EVER use the words "if only we had done..." Focus on the future on everything you do and say from now on. The past is history, not prologue. Think long and hard about what options you have and what opportunities you can "make" for yourself. You got this far in life... and you will get through this part of life... as long as you keep both depression and defeatism locked in the closet.
If you are faith-based, draw upon that to give you some mental fortitude.
Like I say... if you are healthy then it's just about the money... and money is always manageable.
Life has two stages... a beginning and an end. Your current situation might resemble what Churchill said after the Battle of El Alamein,
"Now this is not the end. It is not even the beginning of the end. but it is, perhaps, the end of the beginning."
You've got each other. You will get through this... and while this might not sound like much comfort right now you will find in the end that the journey is the reward.
Note the motto of the company I represent. Adopt it as your own.
You're going to be fine.
Alan N. Canton
Mutual of Omaha
"Begin Today"
InsuranceSolutions123 Agency