OK, here is an example I used all the time in the dark ages when I actually sold life insurance.
When talking to a husband and wife with kids, I would say:
Can we agree that if Bill dies (Bill would be the husband), Carol's problem (Carol would be the wife) is that she has lost Bill's paycheck?
I never got an argument on that. I would then say,
Can I ask how much Bill makes a year (roughly)?
They would tell me the amount. For this example let's use $40,000 per year. I would then say,
OK, so if I can come up with $40,000 a year for Carol, does that solve the money problem if Bill dies?
Funny thing, I never got an argument on that either. Then I would ask:
How old is your youngest child?
They would tell me, let's assume 3. I would then say:
So let's assume that the least amount of money Carol is going to need is $40,000 per year until the youngest is 23 and out of the house, say 20 years. Does that sound about right?
Now keep in mind I only got an argument from one guy on this needs analysis strategy. His view was that if he was dead, it wasn't his problem anymore and his wife looked good enough and she would get remarried. I then asked him if he thought she was that marketable given she was stuck with his kids, and he said that was her problem. Now I don't care what needs analysis you're going to use on him, you just thank him for his time and leave.
But back to the example. Apart from him, I never got an argument from anyone about the replacing the income until the kids were out of the house. Once they agreed to the strategy, I just pulled out my laptop and did the following income analysis and showed it to them. It is attached as a PDF file.
Important: Do not show them the schedule until they have agreed to the strategy.
I would then focus on explaining the schedule, showing the first year coming out of the capital, and the balance earning interest. I would then explain how the second year income was larger than the first year to deal with inflation.
When you get to the last year, and show them all the money is gone, they usually asked:
But then what happens?
I would politely say:
Carol can get a job and go to work.
If they didn't like the answer, I would just extend how long the income would be needed, usually to Bill's age 65.
Do you know why I had the income end at Bill's age 65?
But needless to say, Bill and Carol were pretty sure they needed $616,000 of insurance, just to get the kids raised to adults. And there was no way that Bill was going to convince Carol that she needed less. And you can't imagine how relieved they were to find out how little it cost to buy $616,000 of term life insurance after I showed them a comparison of term rates on my laptop.
THAT is why the age of the kids, and the youngest kid, is VERY, VERY important.
Unless you only want to sell them a $250,000 term policy and have them think that Bill was worth more dead than alive.